Motherhood & Identity – Rediscovering Who You Are Beyond “Mum”

Motherhood changes everything.

Your priorities shift.
Your sleep disappears.
Your conversations start with “Guess what came out of my child today.”

Somewhere between the school runs, snack negotiations, and late-night laundry sessions, it’s easy to lose sight of who you were before everyone started calling you “Mum.”

You’re still there, underneath the mental lists and the meal prep, behind the woman who remembers everyone’s birthdays but forgets her own favourite song.

This isn’t about wanting your old life back.
It’s about rediscovering the parts of yourself that got a little buried under the chaos.
The pieces that light you up. The ones that existed before motherhood, and the new ones that only came alive because of it.

Why We’re Talking About This

Somewhere along the way, “modern motherhood” became a juggling act no one signed up for.

We were told we could do it all, raise kind humans, build fulfilling careers, stay fit, keep friendships alive, and somehow meditate in between school drop-offs.

But we know....
No one can “balance” that perfectly. And pretending we can just makes us feel more disconnected from the women we used to be.

This series isn’t about perfection or productivity.
It’s about pausing long enough to ask: Who am I now?

Because motherhood doesn’t erase your identity; it reshapes it.
You don’t need to find the old you. You just need to give the current you some attention.

What You’ll Find in This Series

Over four short reads, we’ll explore what it really means to rediscover yourself beyond “Mum.”

Each post is a mix of humour, honesty, and gentle reflection, the kind of real talk that pairs best with a lukewarm coffee and five minutes of peace.

Part 1 → Who Was I Before “Mum”?
Connecting with the woman you were before motherhood.

Part 2 → Why 'Balance' Might Be a Lie
Letting go of impossible standards and finding peace in boundaries.

Part 3 → Ambition Isn’t Selfish – It’s a Map
Exploring how ambition can guide you back to yourself and help you rediscover purpose after motherhood.

Part 4 → Making Room for You (Without Guilt)
Learning how to create space for your own needs without guilt, because self-care isn’t selfish, it’s survival.

💬 Join the Conversation

If any of this sounds familiar, you’re in the right place.
Share your thoughts, tag a friend who needs this reminder, or just start by asking yourself:
When was the last time I did something that was purely for me?

“Motherhood doesn’t erase your identity. It simply gives it new chapters.” - The Mama Assembly